Moving, many hands make lighter work

moving house
When I was growing up I only moved once when I was 5, the rest of my life we spent in one house and it was very stable. I went to one primary school and one high school. The first time I moved after that was when I went to university in Jhb. Since then I have moved a ridiculous number of times. Now when we move at the end of the month it will have been the 17th move in 16 years, not very stable at all. At least 4 of those moves were overseas so not just a small trip around the corner.

The kids have each moved quite a few times in their lives. I am really looking forward to making the house my own and putting down roots. I am delighted that after years of renting I can finally paint Rachel’s room for her. She has wanted her own space for such a long time now. I am not sure how Caleb will take being on his own but it will be nice to make transport bedroom for him with tractors and all

Moving really has to be one of the most stressful things ever. This will be the 3rd time I have moved pregnant! But this time I am promised that all the hard work will be done for me. The best part will be having space for stuff so we don’t have to fall over each other and stuff like we d at the moment. We don’t have fancy furniture, or stuff, but we will have a place that we can start making our own and buying stuff for. Now I just want the time until end of October to fly.

I found this link to 11 ways to survive the stress of moving.

Did you move a lot?

House hunting help

We are house hunting which is not a joyful task with 2 small children when it has to be done after Yme finishes work so they are tried and grumpy. But after some really disastrous houses we found a really nice one near us in Durbanville. It has the 4 bedrooms we need, big modern kitchen with gas and separate scullery, study and storage place for Earth Babies stock. Down side is asking price is inflated for the area, we hate the agent, 3 rooms have no build in cupboards, 3 rooms are together then 2 are on the other side of the house so not ideal for all the kids being and close to us, but then they can share for now and when Rachel is older she might like her own room a bit further away parts are flat roof, gas was self installed so needs certificate. We would be in the area we are and have gotten used to but 30mins from closest beach. Yme works is montague gardens near milnerton so quite a drive already.

We were ready to put in an offer but had an appointment this weekend in Dynefontein near Melkbos which we nearly did not keep, but thought what the hell we love the area and at the very least we can take the kids down to the beach for a play on the sand. Surprise surprise we see a lovely house. It has 4 big rooms with guest room and study and place for EB, it is an older solid house was build for koeberg in the days Eskom gave you a house. Wooden parkett floors, modern kitchen, modern bathrooms. All bedrooms have cupboards, 2 mins from beach, lovely feel to the house. It is the first one the kids asked if we could buy. Same price as the other but more worth asking price if you ask me. Does not have separate scullery but kitchen move open plan to lounge. Did I mention 2 mins from beach and I love the west coast. Has a calm feel about the area.
But it is further for Yme to work and it means moving areas.

So what would you do?

Life happens when you are making other plans

* so we are pregnant, the decision has all been made and pinkgeek baby is here to stay. I am going to be keeping most of the baby stuff on the Pinky and the Geek blog so pop over there from time to time to see what we are up to as we journey from to having our baby. Hopefully I can get Geek to also blog regularly and it should be cool to see our very different points of view.
* I am really getting more settled in Cape Town and am making plans to get out more and to do stuff with the kids.
* I joined a home school group in Durbanville and am going to our first meeting this week Friday, they are also doing an Aquarium visit later this month which should be cool.
* Money, money, money there is just not quite enough to go around, was doing the budget last night and was feeling more and more despondent by the end of it – oh well, budget meal planning here we come.
* My boobs are having their one year anniversary on 6 August – can you believe it has been a year. Wow! Best thing I ever did. Love them to bits.
* I have new glasses they are, surprise, surprise – Pink with butterflies on the side
* My good friend Ghilraen and family are coming to Cape Town later this month and I am very excited
* Geek and I went on our first ever date on Friday night, all very backwards I know but it was lovely. We had dinner and then went to see Inception. Thanks to Ouma Annatjie for watching the kids for us.
* I need to phone the lawyer and see what is happening about the divorce there is some hope that this might actually work this time.
* we need to move, we just do not have enough space here for 4 of us let alone 5, but we don’t really have the money to move.
* My parents have offered to help us buy a house, we are looking at it seriously, but realize that this kind of thing with family can be tricky and again are just not sure we can pay enough towards a house. Wow property prices in CT are expensive!
* Yme passed his exams.
* I am really proud of Rachel’s reading at the moment.
* I could sleep all day – no really all day. This 1st trimester with all the sickness and tiredness is for the birds. The problem with even a small nap is that Caleb being a boy causes holy terror. The one day he emptied all the juice concentrate in Rachel’s toy kitchen, the next day he drew on the braai wall outside with a pen and while I was scrubbing it off ‘watered’ the plants with Handy Andy. etc etc so you can see why I am scared to lie down even for 5 minutes.
* Friends and family have been so lovely and so supportive, even though this is unplanned and a little soon, we have been blessed by great people in our lives.

It’s my blog and I’ll cry if I want to

Tonight I toyed with the idea of starting a new anonymous blog.
One were I could write the things that were in my head, without the limitations of knowing the readers. I am sure I am not the first blogger to have this desire. I could start something new, quite easily, and write endlessly into the great abyss, but two things stopped me.

1) Time. I know it is quick to set up a free WordPress blog, but then I would spend the rest of the night looking for a theme that I liked, hating all the free ones and trying to customise one. It has to look pretty after all…

2) I like comments, I am a bit of a comment whore to be honest. It is not a numbers game, it is more just knowing people popped in and read what I wrote. A little ‘I was here’ note more than suffices, comments do not need to be profound, just present. I like the connection, the idea that my words have been seen, understood and shared by others. I would love to think that maybe one day they might even have an impact on people but I am not vain enough to think that what I write now is in any way profound enough for that.

So back to the problem at hand, I have always said I write because I have to, the words simply bubble up inside until they have to have a place to come out. Tonight is no exception, they need out. What I feel however makes no sense to me, so how do I suppose that with 10 fingers, 26 letters and a tired mind I have a hope of anything other than inarticulate unintelligible rambling? I am not sure but here goes

I feel all tearful and jiggery inside. I have heaps to do, too much as always, but I can’t concentrate on any of it. I want to have a good old cry but I feel mad at myself at the same time for feeling this way. Why on earth would I feel tearful when in fact I can not remember a time in my life when I have been happier? I am loved and supported and cared for by so many people and yet inside tonight I feel anxious and a little overwhelmed.

I feel like a juggler, I have all these balls in the air, all of them important and all of them counting on my to keep it all together and afloat, and I am terrified I am about to drop one. What I have to cope with here is only fractionally more than I had in Pretoria but I guess added to that the newness and uncertainty of my surroundings and the lack of familiar means that today it feels a little much. I have no pressure from anyone to be or do more than I can manage, the pressure to be all to everyone is self imposed.

I know it was a big move to Cape Town and just the emotional drain of packing and unpacking and helping the kids adjust, takes it’s toll. No matter how much I want to be here, and I do, I do not regret this move, not even for a minute, I guess I have to take into account that the changes will have an effect on my emotions. The problem is that I don’t want them to, I want to be fine and cope fine and make the transition without any hiccups and me smiling and happy and awesome – not feeling like I am slowly crumbing from the inside.

I am moving to Cape Town

I have been going on and on about wanting to move to Cape Town and coming up with all sorts of reasons why I could not. Well I am taking a jump a leap of faith. Well it is not really a leap of faith as I am really not believing in a higher power or purpose to make it happen. I am trusting that with hard work and being closer to the rest of the ART team good things will be in the future.

It is hard to believe that it is happening after wanting to do this for so long, I guess my timing is a bit rubbish. I hated the UK weather and I decide to move to CT right as winter is about to start. Well if I can survive 2 years in the UK where it rains 365 days a year then I am sure I can handle a few months in CT? Besides it will not get as cold the UK.

So the great job now is packing and moving, not one that I like very much but needs must.
I a going to self pack and then just get a truck to come and transport the stuff – anyone got any contacts of an inexpensive company?

Oh yes moving date is around 19/20 April – around the corner!!!!!