Hug from Far away

My dear friend Sam is grieving, her beautiful baby boy Joaquim was only with her for 2 months before he died. I can’t not even begin to imagine her and Manny’s pain. They are in Benoni and I am in Cape Town so very far away. How do you even begin to offer comfort and support? I kept contact with Sam but told her that I was making her something that would arrive later, when the calls stop coming and the world moves on and yet her world would never be the same. For the days when she needed to know that she has people that care because the loneliness of grief can make the world feel cold some days.

I did see her when I was up there for Christmas. It was a wonderful day with our friend Ghilraen too. We talked and cried and just enjoyed being able to share and support one another. I never got to finish my gift while I was there but she did see me working on it and I posted it yesterday

It was a comfort shawl called Faraway so close, written for someone who had lost a baby. I made it so that Sam could wrap herself if my hug even when I was not there.

The beautiful Yarn was custom dyed by Carle of Nurturing Fibres I saw Carle dye this very special yarn for Sam, it goes from black to blue with white spots and silver twinkle from the kid silk. It is the early morning sky as night fades and another day starts, a few remaining stars in the sky. There are many midnights in grief but there is also the morning, the new day and the hope of tomorrow.

My Dearest Sam nothing can take the pain away or make it better but know today, tomorrow and always that you are loved and that friends, even faraway, walk this path with you.
Love you
from PinkHairGirl

Faraway so close

Sam's shawl

Comfort Shawl

10 thoughts on “Hug from Far away

  1. the tears stream down my face as I read this post and your words of truth as if you could see right through me! You have no idea what this means to me Sally. As you said, when the calls stop coming and the world miraculously keeps turning. I will treasure this shawl always, and our beautiful friendship!
    I love you!

    • Grief is a long road, some days will be good and others will be bad for a long time to come. I hope this shawl always serves as a reminder that I love you and I know how long the road is and I am here for you.

  2. Sally,

    You captured my thoughts to well, thank you for including me this project, and giving me the chance to send special hugs to Sam.

    Sam, you are in my thoughts often and my heart is connected to yours.

    much love

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