I am Yme’s incomplete sentence

The thing about pink hair is that it makes you recognisable. There are not that many of us with pink hair so people remember you. I was in the wool shop on Thursday and a lady caught my eye and said “Hi, how are you?” So I was polite back but it was clear I did not know who she was. It turned out she was from Yme’s dad side of the family and I had met her at Natasha’s funeral. I met a lot of people that day.

She said “you are Yme’s…” slightly awkward pause as she did not know what to call me and then she said “oh and look how the baby has grow” and then lots of comments on how cute he was and that he looked so good.

I had a bit of a chuckle later and now tease Yme that my status is that on an incomplete sentence. I must admit it was a bit weird and did leave me thinking how sad it was that a relationship does not seem valued in our society until there is a wedding.

8 thoughts on “I am Yme’s incomplete sentence

  1. Haha! That’s a whole new type of relationship status on Facebook.

    I’m having a similar problem… Daniel and I have been together for almost 5 years now and a friend actually messaged me and said “so you’re STILL Daniel’s girlfriend?”. Um, awkward.

    Sigh. I feel your pain, Pinky.

  2. I think perhaps, the lady did not know what to call you. For example: Are you a girlfriend or partner of his? There are so many terms out there, these days. I too don’t know what to say to people who are in similar position like you and Yme. I don’t know if you are a girlfriend/boyfriend, wife/husband or partner. Because many married people also don’t wear rings either these days. Many prefer not to get married at all and just stay together. Perhaps she did not know how to define your relationship without stepping on some toes.

  3. In a weird way I actually get it. I too have been in a situation of not knowing what to call someones significant other, especially if they have kids together and are not married or engaged. I usually go with Partner – somehow I feel that this is the best and the easiest description and it does seem to fit just about any type of relationship whether there is an engagement ring or a marriage certificate or not. And yes, it is sad that a relationship seems more valued in society if the couple is married. I know that I too am sometimes guilty of thinking this way (for me it really is all based on upbringing) but I am aware of the danger of that kind of thinking and I am consciously trying to change it.
    I am curious to know how you refer to yourself in this situation. How do you respond to people when they make those awkward statements?

    • She obviously did not know what to call me and needed to move on and focus on Titus and I was okay with that.
      I think in some circles it is still not the done thing to have kids out of wedlock.

      Julia most of the time I am not sure what to call myself. At our Doctors rooms we are known as the family with 3 surnames, it makes life interesting

    • I like it too. Relationships are not straight forward anymore. Blended families like mine are more common now. But what I like about it most is that I hope there is never a full stop at the end of our sentence. I hope we are always changing and growing and moving through life.

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