I was in the bank on Friday and I noticed that the title they have down for me is Mrs. I never changed my maiden name and always chose to be called Ms. I see no reason for it to be public knowledge of a woman’s marital status in a title. Men get to just be Mr all there lives no one makes a fuss about anything changing if they are married. It is not a case of being proud or not of ones status it has to do with the inequality if the change of status is only noted for one gender.
The overtones of a very patriarchal male dominated society is still so apparent in the differentiation still made for woman. I asked on twitter and a lot of woman agreed. The problem is not only the the title has the feeling of being a badge of ownership the other problem is that in our society of complex relationships the title which is supposed to give information is redundant.
I am not Miss, as in a never marriage available female and i am not Mrs either, I am separated and desperately wanting to be divorce, but be that as it may, why does what I am matter to anyone?? What if like a friend, I was married and then widowed, she is no longer her title. When they cease to be useful and have the glaring inequality that men’s marital status is not denoted then I think it is time to move on.
Miss and Mrs should just be replaced by the non specific Ms no confusion, no getting it wrong, no feeling like in some ways it denotes ownership and no one needing to feel hurt by their title when it is a reminder of loss and grief.
When Ms. magazine was born, the editors explained, “Ms. is being adopted as a standard form of address by women who want to be recognized as individuals, rather than being identified by their relationship with a man.”
Rant over, I am not a raging feminist and I do like to be treated well, I just think that these titles have lost all meaning and relevance.