27 Jan100 Truths about PHG

100 Truths! After you’ve filled this out, TAG 10 people and have them do the same.

1. Last beverage ~ Red espresso and apple juice ice tea ( I am trying to cut back on my coffee addiction)
2. Last phone call~ Barbara it is her birthday!
3. Last kiss~ 2 seconds ago
4. Last song you listened to~ 30 seconds to Mars – the Kill
5. Last time you cried~ Friday night, was cut deep by a friend

HAVE YOU EVER:
6. Dated someone twice ~ Yes
7. Been cheated on? ~ Yes
8. Kissed someone & regretted it ? ~ No
9. Lost someone special? ~ Yes
10. Been depressed? ~ Yes
11. Been high? –> Yes

LIST THREE FAVORITE COLORS:
12. Pink _ no brainer there
13. Green
14. Orange

THIS YEAR HAVE YOU:
15. Have you made new friends this year ~ Yes
16. Fallen out of love ~ No
17. Laughed until you cried ~ Yes
18. Met someone who changed you ~ Yes
19. Found out who your true friends were ~ Yes
20. Found out someone was talking about you ~ not yet, there is time
21. Kissed anyone on your top friends list ~ No, I have awesome boyfriend for all my kissing needs

TRUTH:
23. How many kids do you want to have ~ I have 2
24. Do you have any pets ~ we share my parents dog
25. Do you want to change your name ~ I changed it from just being Sally to include my second name Sally-Jane
26. What did you do for your last birthday ~ was in England for my sisters wedding – my friends made a big fuss of me
27. What time did you wake up today ~ 5:30 ;-)
28. What were you doing at midnight last night ~ I can’t actually believe it but I was actually sleeping which is so unusual for me
29. Name something you CANNOT wait for ~ ART
30. Last time you saw your father ~ just over a week ago, he is in the US at the moment, usually see him everyday
31. What is one thing you wish you could change about your life ~ financial independence
32. What are you listening to right now ~ 30 second to Mars
33. Have you ever talked to a person named Tom ~ Yes used to work with a Tom
34. What’s getting on your nerves right now? ~ i know this is silly but compared to the place I was in my life a while ago things are so much better that I think my tolerance to silly annoyances is higher.
36. What’s your real name ~ Sally-Jane
37. Relationship Status ~ Dating awesome boyfriend
38. Zodiac sign ~ Gemini
39. Male or female ~ Female
40.Primary School ~ Glenstantia Primary school
41. High School ~ The Glen High School
43. Hair color ~ Pink
44. Long or short ~ medium
45. Height ~ 1,79cm
46. Do you have a crush on someone ~ if a crush always mean unfulfilled then no, if it means feeling silly in love with someone then, yes
47. What do you like about yourself ~ I really care about people
48. Piercings ~ ears and belly button
49. Tattoos ~ YAY yes I have a lovely new tattoo, so happy with it
50. Righty or lefty ~ righty

FIRSTS :
51. First surgery ~ tonsils 3yrs
52. First piercing ~ ears 11 I think
53. First tattoo ~ December last year my Guardian Angel Ankh
54. First best friend ~ Sandi
55. First Sport ~ running
56. First pet ~ dog
57. First vacation ~ Can’t remember
58. First concert ~ *blush*I think it was UB40 or Bon Jovi
59. First crush ~ no idea
60. First alcohol drink ~ can’t remember

RIGHT NOW:
61. Eating ~ just finished supper ( spaghetti and mince made by awesome boyfriend)
62. Drinking ~ nothing
63. I’m about to ~ play Torchlight with Rachel then put the kids to bed
64. Listening to ~ still 30 seconds to Mars
65. Waiting for ~ kids to go to bed

WHICH IS BETTER WITH THE OTHER SEX?
69. Lips or eyes~ eyes
70. Hugs or kisses ~ both
71. Shorter or taller ~ Tallerish as long as they are about my height or above
72. Older or Younger ~ depends
73. Romantic or spontaneous ~ You are kidding right? I want spontaneously romantic!
74. Nice stomach or nice arms ~ Strong arms to hold me so I feel safe and loved
75. Tattoos or piercings ~ whatever they feel comfortable with not a make or break for me
76. Sensitive or loud ~ confident and funny
77. Hook-up or relationship ~ relationship
78. Trouble maker or hesitant ~ again confident and funny I don’t really want a trouble maker or someone who is hesitant

HAVE YOU EVER :
79. Kissed a stranger ~ Yes
80. Drank hard liquor ~ yes
81. Lost glasses/contacts ~ Yes
82. cried in front of someone ~ yes
83. Broken someone’s heart ~ yes – still haunts me sometimes
84. Had your own heart broken ~ yes
85. Been arrested ~ no
86. Turned someone down ~ yes
87. Cried when someone died ~ yes
88. Liked a friend that is a girl ~ no not like THAT, yet ;-)

DO YOU BELIEVE IN:
89. Yourself ~ yes if i don’t who will
90. Miracles ~ no, i believe that people can surprise us beyond our wildest dreams and touch our lives deeply
91. Love at first sight ~ Yes
92. Heaven ~ No
93. Santa Clause ~ No but there were snow footprint in my lounge on Christmas morning
94. Kissing on the first date ~ yes
95. Angels ~ I wrote this at the end of my blog about 2009
I know this one is a tiny bit soppy and I don’t believe in the religious icon kind of angel, swooping and swerving against a bright blue sky. My angels are down here, in the trenches, keeping me safe.

“Angels are the guardians of hope and wonder, the keepers of magic and dreams. Wherever there is love, an angel is flying by. Your guardian angel knows you inside and out, and loves you just the way you are. Angels keep it simple and always travel light. Remember to leave space in your relationships so the angels have room to play. Your guardian angel helps you find a place when you feel there is no place to go. Whenever you feel lonely, a special angel drops in for tea. Angels are with you every step of the way and help you soar with amazing grace. After all, we are angels in training; all we have to do is spread our wings and fly!” Author Unknown

ANSWER TRUTHFULLY:
96. Is there one person you want to be with right now ~ i would love to see my friend Dimity in the UK and sit and drink vanilla rooibos
97. Had more than one boyfriend/girlfriend at one time ~ No
98. Do you believe its possible to remain faithful forever ~ Yes!
99. What’s the one thing you cannot live without ~ Love
100. Posting this as 100 Truths ~ Yes

I am not going to tag anyone just do it if you want to

27 JanOne day when I am big

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The blog challenge on Female to Female today is about your favourite city, either the one you live in or the one that you want to live in. Now it is no secret that I love Cape Town and that my goal is to move there. My parents are originally from Cape Town and we have been visiting since I was a little girl. I love it, there is just something about me that feels at home in CT. From the mountains to the sea Cape Town has memories both old and new for me.

One day I really hope I get to live the dream.

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Now all that said I really really love Pretoria, and yes laugh all you like but until you have lived here you can’t understand that it is actually not a bad place to live. The weather, in my humble opinion is the best in South Africa. Laura explains it well in Female to Female

Thanks to André for the picture

23 JanOne for the boys

Barbara was telling me about a discussion on a parenting forum, they were discussing what guys would choose if they had the choice between sex with no blowjobs or blowjobs and no sex, forever. The responses were interesting, we thought it might be revealing to see what guys think as the original discussion was mostly women.

Guys please vote in the poll and I would love to hear what people think ( yes you girls too) so leave me a comment.



22 JanYellow

Laura has a Photo Blog Challenge on Female 2 Female
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I needed to post a picture of something yellow
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I decided on Rachel’s yellow duvet as she has come back to loving the colour again. It was always her favourite from when she was a small girl. As she started to interact with other little girls she discovered that ‘the’ colour girls were supposed to like was pink and so for a while pink and purple were the favourites. In a way it made me really sad. I like that she was individual and chose a colour that she liked rather than was just popular. Yes I know I like pink but that is different, I like it in an unusual pink hair kind of way. If she had started off liking pink that would have been fine, I just hated to see her natural preference changed to fit in – I guess we all do it to a certain extent. I am happy that yellow is back!

19 JanWhat should you risk for love

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I have been avoiding writing this post for a while. Something happens when you have a blog, everything becomes a potential blog post and this idea has popped into my head a few times when talking to friends over the past few months. I kept putting it off thinking that when I had something profound to say I would be able to do the topic justice, but the epiphany never came. The problem with this topic is that it can seem so cliché to just say “hell yes, you risk all for love.”

Last night on twitter a few of the girls were talking about the movie City of Angels (possible spoiler, so don’t read further if you have not seen the movie and still want to) and it got me thinking again about how much should we risk for love. I cried in that movie, they found that love, the one we all look for and then just like that it was gone, should he have risked so much for such a short time? Can love be measured in time, or rather in how it makes your heart feel and your soul sing?

I asked the question on twitter about what we should risk for love and the answers varied from everything to nothing. But the one reply that got me thinking was Lisa Troy’s answer : “The problem isn’t what we risk for love it’s that we risk for the illusion the other person offers us. That’s the tragedy.”

There is some truth in this, we often look to others to offer us the dream, the happiness we seek, but this has the potential for disaster. I don’t think another person should be responsible for your happiness, they should add to it. I believe that real love, where the person is enough as they are and all you have to be is yourself, is worth risking a lot for.

For me as someone who has always been a bit cynical and skeptical of love, the biggest risk is in the loving itself. We don’t use the word ‘falling’ in love for nothing, there is a process of abandonment of rational thought that is needed to fall, a loss of control is implied. This can be blindly terrifying as the outcome no matter how sure you were when you took the leap is always to a degree uncertain. But wow that falling feeling is great!

So what do you think, what should you risk for love?

15 JanPix from the Canonista

Hello gentle reader. No, this is NOT PinkHairGirl…:)

I’m a friend, and I asked PGH to allow me to guest-post here…

Why, you ask?
Well, she showed me some pics she was taking, to see what Caleb was doing, and the images immediately struck me as special. I know shooters who try for years and charge small fortunes to get results like this.

Now let me try and describe what I’m seeing, objectively.
There are elements of lighting and composition and emotion in these images that are exceptional. See how he’s in the light? See how he IS the light in the dark-edged room? See how he’s the centre, focus and really the only subject in the image? See how the colour elements brighten without taking attention away from him? See how he has engaged with the viewer, over the ’spider’? See the perfect gentle window light?

She doesn’t believe me. So help me, please. You be the judges.

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13 Jan6 word challenge

Words. I love words I saw this competition on Angel’s blog, the closing date is tonight. I have wanted to write a story for ages, in fact I have one in my head. So I decided to write the opening for my story for the competition. You only have 250 words which is really hard. I have not written fiction since I was at school so this was quite a challenge, mostly to get over my own anxiety and fear of not be fantastic straight away. I was tempted to just write a poem instead but decided to take the challenge rather. Oh well will send something in, not sure I am brave enough to post it here.

I was talking to my mom about the competition and she told me about a story in 6 words

Ernest Hemmingway was challenged to write a story in 6 words, his answer which he personally thought was his best pose ever was “For sale: baby shoes, never used”

Can you write a story in 6 words? Try and leave it in the comments.

12 JanShow me your Tat!

I got my first Tattoo a few weeks ago and am totally in love with it. Quite a few of you commented on your own tattoos, so now I am curious I want to see them. Please share what you have where and why. Send the pics to sally-jane@pinkhairgirl.co.za and I will add them here.

If you don’t have one but are thinking of it or have an idea, please feel free to share that too.

This is mine a Guardian Angel Ankh
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So here are the tattoos that you guys have been sharing:

Acidicice
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André
The tattoo is three Kanji symbols in a modern font.

It’s over my heart, cos that’s where it binds me.
It means I will never break the promise I made.
It is unconditional and unbreakable.

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Richard
It’s the Horde symbol from World Of Warcraft.

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Jane
This is my tattoo of 2 geckos in a yin-yang design. I had it done in Thailand to celebrate my 30th birthday.

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Gina

I got the first part of the tat (the main flower at the bottom) for my 21st birthday and didnt add anything else until early 2009…
The main ‘flower’ at the bottom was part of the original tat and represents me, the inside is a styalised ‘G’
I added two more flowers one representing Paul and one for Aaron.
I am going to add more when I have more kids.
I also want to go back and have some colour put in, like a burst of different colour from behind each flower…

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Angel

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Megan
An amazing guy that i grew up with was killed in a car accident nearly 2 years ago. on the first anniversary of his death i got this tattoo. we’re both gemini’s (born hours apart!!), hence the symbol. inside it are his initials and underneath his birth and death year.

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Barend
Mischievous face in the middle of the sun, fits well with the
Sagitarius personality
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I made a combination of 2
designs I found, Kanji writing means “Never Give Up”, my motto in
life.
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Melissa

The ones on my back r kind of a tribute to my guitar and hence my music, I play a Gibson hummingbird and the scratchplate has a bird and vines and flowers, gonna get a butterfly added someday. Then the quote in the lower back section says “hope will not disappoint” which is a Godly concept which is stating that if hope comes from the right place, it won’t disappoint u. The SLG on the lower back tat was my 1st tattoo that I got when I was 19, it’s the initials of a song by Tori Amos called “strange little girl”, I added the vines and flowers later, that’s why it looks a little out of place.

The one on my wrist of the cross that says “In Your freedom I will live” is kind of depicting Jesus as a revolutionary and a freedom fighter, hence the red star in the middle.

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12 JanRunning again

This is a very arb post about my running and weight and exercise so feel free to skip it.

Within a day of each other Laura and my mom mentioned that I should start running again, and I know ( well I think) it was not to do with my weight, but the scale says I have put on 8,5kg maybe even a bit more. I am an emotional non eater and lost a lot of weight at one point but it seem like when I am happy I can eat for about 5, or maybe it is just too many chocolate raisins.

So miserable you can have me thin, but make me happy I might start piling on the kg’s. Now I know that so many of you are going to hate me but I have never dieted in my life. Sure I have done a detox or 2 but never a diet for weight. I am almost sure that I could not do it. So I will run again instead. I tend to get thin running and besides I have decided to get my ass in gear and at least try do the half marathon for the 2 oceans. I know I was going to do the full thing but it just slipped away from me.

So I am going to be a bit geeky and blog my running stats, I will hopefully also find an on line logbook type thing to use too.

Start day 11/01/2010
start weight:68kg
resting pulse: 70
distance: 3,51km
time 25:22:7
pace: max 6:20 average: 7:13
heart rate: max 183 average 164

yes yes I know they are all shockingly bad but hey it was day one.
Rachel wanted to take a photo of post run Mommy – not pretty

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10 JanBeing a Mom

I am a mom, mother, protector, safe-place, the person responsible for guiding and loving two of the most wonderful little people in the world through their journey from trusting child to confident adult

I had a wonderful time away, I am so very grateful to my parents who looked after the kids for a week. Seems like they all had a good time. Think my parents might have forgotten how full-on kids can be. But they are always calm and focused, and they lavish a lot of time and attention on the kids which I know they really liked. It was so lovely to see their little faces again, they just lit up when they saw me and came running full tilt. I loved being told of all the things they had been doing. The majority of Caleb’s sentences stared with ‘give me your hand Mommy’ and then he would lead me around showing me things and telling me what he had been doing. I had to watch him jump on the trampoline, which he really loves and in the pool. They each wanted to show me the new things they have been doing and learning.

And then of course 6am wake up calls resumed again when exuberant kids come running in asking if it is time to wake up yet. They jump on you, pile the bed full of toys, crawl under the blankets and put cold feet on you – and you know what? I would not change one moment of it, for anything in the world!

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And then I get a love letter like this and my heart melts.
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