I don’t know you and I am just a little person. Well, not in stature, as I am nearly 6 feet tall, but in terms of influence. I don’t like politics and I have to admit that before this fiasco, I did not even know who you were. While I ignore most of the political stuff that goes on, one thing I cannot ignore, is a woman being treated badly.
I think you are beautiful. The photos of you laughing are so full of joy. You obviously take pride in being a little less ordinary, and not to just blend in. As someone with pink hair, who many, I am sure, think is ridiculous, I applaud this attitude. I don’t really care what your dress looked like, or if it was a fashion boo-boo. What I care about is the way people tore you apart. The things people said and the ‘funny’ cartoon comparisons were nothing more than ugly bullying.
I think all women are beautiful, and like I said on FaceBook, I have never met an ugly woman, just plenty who do not yet know how beautiful they are, as true beauty starts inside. Pregnant woman are especially beautiful, they glow with life and love.
We as woman can’t have it both ways. We can’t moan about the media setting unrealistic expectations, by showing us photoshopped models, that we can never look like, and we can’t campaign for real life size mannequins and catalogues with real woman wearing fashion, so that we know what it might look like on someone who is not as thin as a twig, and we can’t ask not to be treated like objects and to be valued for who we are inside. We can’t right these wrongs, while we so viciously rip someone apart, for wearing a yellow (some said green) dress.
I hope one day the shape of our body, and what we choose to cover it in, will be of far less consequence than who we are inside. I hear a rumour that the stress over this incident has landed you in hospital. I really hope that this is not true. But if it is, even more so I hope we can do something to put it right. There is a power in social media. Power for enormous good. I got a coffee delivered, by a stranger, to my sister in London when she was having a bad day. I have watched support for people poured out. But with great power comes great responsibility. We own part of that power so therefore the responsibility too.
Please leave a message of support for Thandile Sunduza here on this blog, or tweet about her or whatever you can do, so that she can feel there are those that feel she is worth so much more than a dress. I don’t know if she has a twitter handle, or how we make enough noise so it reaches her. And if you were one of those that in the moment got caught up and forgot that there was a person behind the dress and a lady you were hurting, you might want to apologise. We teach our kids to say sorry, right?
Thandile I hope you and your baby are well, please don’t believe the haters.
I leave you with a motivational speaker at the TED talks. Labeled the World’s ugliest woman, she took this and turned it around, to make it the power that drives her.