Why we should not ignore Valentines day

Oh the same dilemma every year. Do you or don’t you do anything for Valentines day? I am glad that xkcd had the same dilemma

I have heard all the reasons not to.
It is too commercial
Money making scam
Everyday should be Valentines day.
We are busy it is a working day.

And while I agree with all this, plus the fact that we have no extra money to spend going out, I am still not convinced we should ignore it.

Our lives are busy and hectic and no matter how much you are in love, the mundane and the everyday creeps in. Yes should be loving and doing things for each other everyday, but sometimes we are just trying to survive. Do we need a day to be reminded? A day to stop and think of ways to spoil and appreciate our loved ones? It is all too easy just to say that it should be everyday, but if we are honest we don’t go out of our way everyday to show our love.

If we don’t use this day in our rebellion against the commercial but we don’t really do any other day either. We all moan that Christmas is too commercial but most of us still celebrate and enjoy it. We can find ways to make it congruent with our own values, spend less money, make it an eco friendly day if you are a green nut like me. It does not have to be commercial but I don’t think we should ignore it. A day to show someone how much you love them does not have to cost a lot. But I think it is wrong to pretend it does not matter.

We show our kids that a day of Father Christmas and presents is important but a day to show someone you love them should be ignored? That does not sound right, kids need more examples of people showing love, they need to know that sometimes you need to take time out and make an effort to show someone you appreciate them.

My ex husband ignored it every year, well he ignored everything including our wedding anniversary. I would secretly hope that this time he would do something nice. I tried a few times and maybe I did not try hard enough either. But each year his ignoring it hurt.

How do you feel about Valentines day?
Are you celebrating Valentines day?
What are ways to have a inexpensive but still romantic day?

(great Pinky! Now you have talked yourself into this you know you actually have to find some awesome cheap way to spoil the geek tomorrow!)

7 thoughts on “Why we should not ignore Valentines day

  1. Ah… as with all holidays, barring Christmas, I’m calling “hallmark day of craziness”.

    If you have to stop for a moment and remember to think of your significant other, then by all means use the day. But I can’t believe I was the only one that ever just pitched up at an office to hand over a flower or just to steal a kiss. The only one that ever randomly sent a message, “thinking of you” or found that at a moment of awesomeness that you wanted to simply call someone and say, “You have to be the first to know.” It’s the little things you do everyday that really should do all the talking.

    If you can’t think of those things, perhaps it’s time to stop and take stock of things. Not for a single day, but granted one day has to be that day.

    My ex pretty much ignored everything, even forgetting our aniversary too. The last one was a bit of a killer mind you mostly because if any day should be “Valentines Day” that should have been it. If you’re going to pick a single day of the year, let it be the one that best matches you.

  2. those little everyday things are great and we should all do them more. The sad fact is that with kids we sometimes forget.
    Relationships need work and sure one day can not replace a years worth of little kindnesses but I think any day to focus extra on someone can’t be a bad thing

  3. One day can’t be a bad thing, but surely expecting someone “because of popular demand” can hardly be considered anything more than dutiful? Is where I was going.

    Then again any reason is a good one?

  4. With the chaos of kids, for me personally, any reason that helps me focus on The Geek and show extra love is good. I am sure there are some that just do it out of duty. Gifts for the sake of it would just be empty and meaningless

  5. Anything for the sake of it is empty and meaningless.

    But agreed, any reason is a good reason. Although I’d still suggest avoiding stapling your hand to your face. 😀

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  7. Sally-Jane, you have hit the nail on the head! I feel the same way! Definitely shouldn’t be ignored! But yes, also not over thought! (love the cartoon)

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