Do you ever land up thinking something and wonder how on earth you got onto that train of thought? Today was one of those days. I heard a news bulletin about a columnist, now foreign representative, calling homosexual people dogs and pigs. I thought why we always equate insulting someone with likening them to animals? Animal in most cases behave a hell of a lot better than us humans. Then I tried to think if anyone had used an insult like that on me and how I had felt. Even though animals are nicer than us, there is something about the insult that is mean to degrade you as a person and make you somehow less than human, no worthy of being human.
I remembered back to high school and a teacher who I disliked a lot humiliating me in front of the whole class by saying I talked more than a bitch on heat. If you know me then you know that this is probably true ( it is funny actually), yet I wished that I was not shy and scared of authority like I was then, I wish I was me now. There is no way I would have let the fear of my minor wrong doing let someone get away with a comment like that.
I wish that I knew that no matter what I had done, even if I had talked non stop his whole class, that his comment was totally inappropriate. That instead of feeling humiliated and landing in tears feeling powerless to do anything about it I would have stood up and taken him to task. Then I was afraid as I thought I was wrong and that he somehow was justified in what he did, he was the teacher. Now I would not mind if he did not like me standing up to him and in fact I would have loved the challenge of seeing if he might like to repeat what he said in front of the head.
Why was my fear of authority so great that I was willing to let an obviously inappropariate comment go? This then made me think of an article on paretning that Ghilraen and I had discussed this morning. That blind obedience is not a trait that we ever want to encourage in our children. That they have the right to an explination and to be heard even if it does not change the outcome of our decision they should know why and they should be able to say their side. If you want to read the article it is here Sure explaining everything is harder and it is easier to have the “because I say so” mentality but I never want my kids to be so fearful of authority that they let obvious injustice slide, or stop thinking for themselves. Because it is when we stop thinking and follow blindly that we become more like animals rather than anything to do with our sexual orientation.
If you could follow this convoluted train of thought well done. I just needed to write it down, to remind myself that explaining and reasoning and working with my kids is worth it. Not easy, no, in fact much harder, but worth it if they never have to feel powerless at injustice like I did that day.