Mommies have to be soft

One of the things we as women worry about when becoming a mom is the toll that it takes on our bodies. Nothing is ever quite the same again.

Flat tummies are gone, boobs are saggier, stretch marks are present, wrinkles multiply. Sure with exercise, gym and effort we can tone, trim, flattern and harden our bodies again. But should we place all this pressure on ourselves? Or is this how we are supposed to be? Is the process of becoming a mom, one of changing our bodies to be ready for the task.

You only have to have a 3year old crawl onto your lap, snuggling against the soft saggy boobs we bemoan, stroking your flabbier far from washer board stomach, and looking up into your eyes “Mommy I love cuddling with you, you are so soft”

This was the same boy who said I was still fat after the baby was born and asked if I was growing another baby. I told him no I was not growing another baby, but that Mommies are supposed to be soft so we can cuddled and love and snuggle them better, that mommies have beautiful bodies. I want to teach my children from young to value a normal looking worman’s body. I hope the media does not corrupt them totally as they get older.

I wish the media would focus less on the perfect billboard figure, that we all feel depressed at never being able to achieve, and focus on the rounded, softened, beautiful figure of a soft mother perfect as she is.

I think some of the artists and ancient goddess sculpture have a much better idea of what mothers should be like





8 thoughts on “Mommies have to be soft

  1. Me too.

    “I wish the media would focus less on the perfect billboard figure, that we all feel depressed at never being able to achieve, and focus on the rounded, softened, beautiful figure of a soft mother perfect as she is.”

  2. Today i had to get into a bikini (only the 2nd time since having my twins) and noticed a sizable roll hanging over my bikini bottom. Do I like it? No. Will I learn to live with it? Yes! There is a time and a place for every thing. Trading my once flat tummy a roll and my gorgeous, healthy babies is something I can quite happily live with! Cheers to our “softness”

  3. hah hah I was on the news24 site now and clicked on to read about a woman breast-feeding with implants, and its youuuuuuuuuuu.

    Did you try expressing the milk into bottles and giving your baby those? maybe that’d help, but I guess its not the same as the closeness you have directly feeding him which must feel really awesome.

    Did you use cream everyday on your breasts to prevent stretch marks??? I’m scared of getting stretch marks from pregnancy, are they not totally preventable if you use good cream every single day of the pregnancy?

    • C it is fine now we are 3 months in and we are over the initial hiccups. It was harder to latch him but we just had to work at it. He is still a bit of a lazy latcher but i also think he might be a bit toungue tied. It was worth persevering.

      Stretchmarks are a lot to do with your skins genetic elastisity. No cream can change that. Cream helps a little.

  4. A couple of things I’ve noticed.
    Stretchmarks aren’t necessarily about pregnancy and breastfeeding – I’ve had them since puberty on my breasts. I’ve never had a problem with them – they are all silvery – and kinda beautiful – like very discrete tiger stripes!
    Saggy boobs also have many advantages – I found that when my breasts softened up during breastfeeding I could run without them being sore – a freedom I hadn’t felt since was a child! Though now I’m no longer breastfeeding that elasticity has gone and running is less comfortable again!

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