Comments on: Pleasure who’s responsibility

By: Pamela

Pamela — Sat, 29 Aug 2009 12:11:24 +0000

I agree with Damaria, it depends on the mood of the moment BUT it IS very important to talk. Communication has been and will always be the most powerful aphrodisiac, in my opinion. My guy likes his neck stroked. I’ve told him what I like. Together we’re establishing what works for us. It’s also important to be open to suggestions, even if you think at first that you might not like something. Try it, maybe you will.

By: Jane T

Jane T — Fri, 28 Aug 2009 19:13:32 +0000

Not much of one for talking but I am busy fantasizing, not because I do not want to be with who I am with but because I enjoy it and it adds another dimension. So I do not want to break that mood by talking but I definitely make my own wishes known. I wish I had known more in my early 20s then I would not have made some of the mistakes I have made.

By: BlindCripple

BlindCripple — Sun, 23 Aug 2009 12:44:48 +0000

It all depends on the situation. But your question works both ways. Sure men might be ‘simpler’, but not always.

I think if you want it to be as good as it can be, you need to communicate, whether it’s during, before, after, whatever. There’s nothing wrong with a “slower”, or “here”.

the only guys that will be offended will be the ones who think they’re Gd’s gift to women.

By: Shayne

Shayne — Sat, 22 Aug 2009 16:34:31 +0000

Agree with you Sally. Don’t do the talking during either, but moving a hand or mouth here or there works well. I think you need to have the talk before or after and if you can have a good giggle during if it doesn’t work – even better. And nothing wrong with a toy or two in the bedside table!

By: Pinkhairgirl

Pinkhairgirl — Sat, 22 Aug 2009 15:48:53 +0000

I don’t think it is always necessary to talk as such during sex, but moving a hand here or there, or knowing what positions you like, or being able to talk about what you like at other times I think is vital. I like talking in general so I think I would always talk in sex or I guess be quite vocal one way or the other

By: Damaria Senne

Damaria Senne — Sat, 22 Aug 2009 15:44:59 +0000

For me, talking during the act depends on circumstances. Sometimes things can be slow and you have a conversation and you’re just touching each but you’re not driving the bus in a hurry, so to speak. And then they get interesting and you just want him to shut up and get on with the business.

By: Elaine

Elaine — Sat, 22 Aug 2009 11:57:18 +0000

I also hate talking during sex. Otherwise we are very open in discussing what we want and like or dislike.

By: Barbara

Barbara — Sat, 22 Aug 2009 10:08:20 +0000

We talk about what we like (what we dont like those silly little irritations is a little more difficult lol) – what I hate though is talking during sex – HATE it. We can discuss it all we like and try for something different/better etc next time if it really needs more communication than a word or few- but not in the moment.