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26 Julwriting competition – writers block

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I while back I entered a writing competition that I had seen Angel mention on her blog, well it has come around again. But unlike last time when it took me a few minutes to think of a story and get it out I have spent days this time trying to decide what to write. I am under no illusions that I am anywhere near as good as those who win these competitions but it is good practice and stretches me. This time I feel like time is running out and the idea is not coming.

But so far my favourite entry is this one, haunting, it had me mulling it over and over in my head for days. The care and feeding of angles

If you have a chance read some and see what you think and which is your favourite.

I hope an idea come to me in time.

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21 JulSpontaneous

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One of the things I love to do is to see place and to explore the world around me. I love to travel and I love driving to see places. It is something that the ex and i would fight about a lot. I liked doing stuff like this and he complained it cost too much. We lived in England and hardly ever went anywhere. Most of the trips I did do were with friends and I was always nervous about getting into trouble about how much it had cost.

Yme had mentioned earlier in the week to leave Sunday free as we were going to get in the car and just drive. Well 6am rolled around and I was awake, Caleb was awake and we decided to do it. We woke sleeping beauty who just wanted to see if the tooth fairy had actually brought her money as her first tooth had finally fallen out.
You can read all about the tooth and the tooth fairy on the kids blog - The Pinklets

We all bundled into the car and drove, we stopped to watch the sun come up at an Engen service station that had a little pond and trees and a view of TM, it was all very pretty. We then went on to Saldahna where we stopped on the beach for a little while and then went in search of breakfast in Langeban, we found a wonderful place with sea views and all had a great breakfast as we were starving by this time. We then took the kids down to the beach to play.

Caleb was a little cautious at first but the were soon running and dancing in the water. Rachel got totally soaked, she even sat in the water. But they had so much fun, it took ages to coax them away promising to stop at Melkbossstrand on the way home for ice-cream which we did.

All in all it was a fantastic day, I love being spontaneous and I love that Yme likes to do these type of things too. There seems to be an issue about getting the photos off my camera onto the new computer so sorry this is a few days late. I am not a photographer at all and some of the cell phone ones are a bit rubbish but I love these people so here they are

Sunrise
sunrise
sunrise,calebsunrise

Tractor sign for Caleb
road trip,caleb sign

The 2nd toilet stop
toilet stop 2

Saldanha
Saldana

First Beach Langeban
Langeban
Langeban

Caleb
LangebanLangeban

Rachel ( playing in the water was not enough, she needed to sit in it – did no one tell this child it was winter!)
LangebanLangeban

Ice-cream at Melkbosstrand
melkbosstrand,ice-cream

Melkbosstrand

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21 JulSo how do you say his name?

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I get this question a lot it might even be out ranking the “why do you have Pink hair” question.
Now remember all these tips are from an English girl who will probably never get it 100% correct but I guess some instruction is better than calling him Why-me ;-)

First of all the name is Dutch, not sure if that makes any difference but I add that bit of useless info for you anyway LOL

If you are Afrikaans or can read Afrikaans it is said like the Afrikaans word for Germs – Kieme without the K
If you are not South African chances are that does not help. So lets try phonetics.

‘I’ like in the word India then ‘muh’

Not sure if that helped at all and I am sure the man will have a better explanation but this is the best I can do

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17 JulHappy Birthday dear PHG blog

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Birthday,balloons I actually missed the day that my blog turned ONE, I was thinking about it for weeks before and then at the time it was just hectic as always and I forgot. I am quite sad that I missed it as this little space in the world has come to mean quite a lot to me. It has helped me through some very dark days and out to the other side where life is a lot better. I know that in the world of blogging me and my blog are but infants but we have loved every minute so far and hope to be having many more birthdays

I have always said I write because I have to, the word bubble up inside me and I need to put them down somewhere, but as helpful as writing alone is, a benefit I never realized would come to mean so much to me, is the amazing people I have met through my blog and the support people have given me. I know there are those that think the support from comments should not be taken too much to heart as people can type any little message and it does not replace genuine care and support, but I might just have been lucky in that so many of the people who comment here have become real life friends who do care about me and mine.

Emotions and life can often feel overwhelming as things happen at strange and unplanned times but blogging gives a place to get it all out and it is like having a safety net of people out there that just gently with their words and kindness carry you through the good and bad times.

To all that have read and commented over the year, thank you, you really mean the world to me. I know there are a few of you that read but do not comment often or at all, please keep coming back and maybe just now and again let me know you are out there with a comment or 2, i do so love comments ;-)

I have received criticism about my blog and about my choosing to share my world and emotions with others but no matter what others think I am proud of my little space in the world.

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10 JulProtected: The decision

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10 JulGreenwich Meridian

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I am at the Greenwich meridian, I have a huge decision to make and the sides of the meridian represent the options. I am jumping and changing from one side to the other. Backwards and forward over and over the thoughts tumble, getting no clearer with time. I feel so ill-equiped to make this decision, it’s like jumping between the two with the weight of an anvil on my back.

The thing about decisions is that one way or another they get made. Time means that things move forward and the decision will be made. I will in the end jump down on one of the 2 sides and take small tentative steps, moving me further and further from the alternative reality. I just wondered how often I will look back and wonder about the path not take.

The decision changes me, defines me and molds my soul, my being and the core of who I am. I just wish I knew the best way to make it.

Time marches on…

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29 JunMirror mirror on the wall

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Have you ever stood in front of the mirror with that sinking feeling of dread and disgust, wishing vehemently that the paper-bag-with-eye-holes-look was fashionable? Anything seems preferable over going out in public.

Mirrors, are after all just pieces of reflective glass that give us a unbiased, factual reflection. But our eyes are different. The reflection we see is so tainted by our past, that we seldom see what is actually here. Our baggage clouds our view and soon the mirror becomes a necessary evil that we endure, to do the daily tasks like putting the contact lenses in, applying the make up as fast as possible so the time needed in front of it can be kept to a minimum.

I think there are very few women, who actually like what they see. Magazines and airbrushed models set unrealistic goals for the mere mortal woman. A lot of us have wounds from the past; relationships, friends or family can inflict wounds that we carry with us. We have heard criticism over parts of ourselves, that we have no ability to change and we learn that, the way we are, is just not quite good enough. Over the years, the fog before our eyes grows, and the image we see is distorted. Until…

Until, we find a new pair of eyes staring at us and we catch a glimps of the reflection that they see. They see beauty, loving every part of us. Not expecting perfection, but their love is unwavering in the face of a bad hair day, a fat I-can’t-find-anything-in-the-cupboard day, and even the day your skin forgets you are 33 and not 15. You are loved for who you are, imperfections and all. In their eyes, the bits you hate are not so much over looked, but because the eyes see and love the whole YOU, they are totally insignificant.

And then, one day you get out the shower and look in the mirror, and you start to see what they see. Not perfection, but also not an image totally skewed by the fog of years of negative-self-speak. You see you through someone else’s eyes. It is a gift, and slowly the fog lifts. There are days that the habit of self loathing come crashing back, but then fridge magnet poems remind you to see what is there, and see what they see.

I only hope I am able to give the same gift.

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18 JunFather’s Day Dilemma – the modern family

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It is Father’s Day on Sunday. Which reminds me I must get a little something for my dad to take with us to Pretoria next week, I have the best dad in the world, but I digress. I have not really said anything about Father’s day, just that they need to make some cards for their dad who is in England. Rachel has been asking when Father’s day is since it was Mother’s day. She wants to buy Yme a present and make him breakfast in bed. She knows he is not her dad, she says he is like her step dad. He is very careful to tell them that he is not their dad. Yme thinks I should tell her that we can’t do Father’s Day with him, but I am not sure. The reality is that they see him on a daily basis and he is an important person in their life.
What do you think?
Those who have mixed families with step parents and new relationship what do your kids do on Father’s day?
On this note I am also not sure what to do about Caleb and his dad. They have not seen their dad since last year June when Callie was only 2. He has not been that good at speak on the phone obviously because he is so little. They do Skype although we have not been able to recently with the connection and internet problems. G phoned Caleb on his birthday but he would not speak to him. I know that it really upset G but I am not sure what to do. He would not speak to my sister either when she phoned him that day. People he has not seen for a long time from the UK he is reluctant to speak to on the phone. He does not like the phone much at the best of times
How much is it my responsibility to make sure they have a relationship? I could say that it is his choice not to see them and to work in the UK and that seeing them is more important than getting a British Passport which is his main goal, and he could say I took the kids away and he has no money to come see them and that it is my fault he does not see them, but blaming each other back and forward is not going to help heal the relationship between father and son.

When we have Skype I will make sure they Skype more, I will get him to make a Father’s day card for G. I thought maybe I should get a photo from him and put it in the kid’s room? Maybe I could ask G to email them with pics of where he is and what he is doing, so they can get a better idea and see more pics of him? Any other ideas? Or do I just leave it and let them work it out as he gets older?

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17 JunWe were the fat kid

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Today I tweeted : You support your country like you would if your kid was the fat kid in a race with no chance of winning. You would not walk out on your kid!

I am really sorry to use such a non-PC analogy, but I hope you will forgive me and see the sentiment. I am a parent so it was just what naturally sprung to mind. I watched the game yesterday, along with millions of South African supporters, and at the end I had a very heavy heart, but not because we lost.

Last night we were like the fat kid turning up to run the 3000m at the big inter-school athletics day. Let’s face it. We’re ranked 83 in the world, playing a team who is ranked 16! When you are the parents of the fat kid, you know that they are really not in it to win it. Yes there is always an outside, blind chance but that is not the point. You are there to watch and support them because they are YOUR kid (team). Everyone loves a winner, it is fun to support the winner but it’s the underdog that needs the extra support. They need to know, no matter if they finish the race long after all the others, or if they come in 3 goals behind, that you are still there for them and proud of the way they played against all odds.

I am not going to talk about the bad decision from the referee, off sides, red card, fair or not. But that WAS the moment the wind was knocked out of our boys, who were so out-ranked,yet knew they had the hopes of a nation on them. I am not a football expert by any way shape or form, but I am a mother. I know that to support, means to stick by your kid and your team through the good and the bad. Yes, the game did not go our way, but I am not one tiny bit disappointed in our boys, they turned up and they fought with heart, they were the fat kid and yet they played until the end. I was (and am) however disgusted when the unthinkable happened, the supporters started to walk out! I am furious at every fan that lifted their butts off their seats and walk out on their team. There is no excuse. You let the fat kid run the home straight with no support, and for that I am sad to be amongst those who “call” themselves SA supporters. I only hope the boys know how many of us love their guts and their willingness to try and to play for a country who has pinned hopes on them against all odds.

Imagine you were the fat kid, unrealistically, blindly, expected to win. And your parents walked out when you didn’t! What hope do we have for unity and support for our fellow South Africans if we are so quick to turn our backs, when the going gets tough?

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15 JunDear Blog please forgive me

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My poor neglected blog, I have missed you so much, the number of posts I have written in my head and then not managed to get out has been eating me from the inside. Writing keeps me sane, Yme I promise to try write more and put the crazy woman away again LOL.

Oh my word what did we do before the internet? I am an extrovert, not in the sense that I need big crowds or that I need to be the center of a huge party but in the way that I draw my energy from people. I like to be around people and talking and feeding off them as my one friend put it. So for me to have moved and have no internet is like torture. I love my kids endlessly but they can be a real drain on my energy when I have little other interaction during the day. So the move to Cape Town has meant not only less of my friends around but also no internet has cut me off from my on line support. I am not sure I realized quite how much I needed the people I chatted to on twitter and those who’s blogs I read and using my own blog to chat to others and get my thoughts out.

A few little hiccups have meant that we have been rather challenged in the getting internet.
- Helkom who said we could have a ADSL line no problem when we got the phone line now suddenly have no ports and will not be putting any more infrastructure in place before next year! If you ask me they have so over stretched themselves with the World Cup that they have no more money for the basic stuff. Having no internet and an on line business is not very helpful
- so the next obvious choice is Wireless, we called a few places for a site survey and guess what, luck would have it was have 2 big ass trees in that directly block the 2 hills that the antenna are on that transmit the signal, so that is not an option.
- 3G it is then for now, but we are both MTN and this is a crap signalk area for MTN so we have to get a vodacom card Ricca it and try use it that way, easy? No not quite, have you ever tried to change yiour address before one of the suckers will give you an address change, no i can prove my address with a bill before on of you will give me a bill with my address!!!
- On top of that my cell phone that I could tweet with got stolen, it was one of the worst things, it was given to me as a gift by an amazing person that I am not allowed to name and it is so much worse when a gift gets stolen than something you bought yourself, I was gutted.
- Then my lap top broke
- The home phone broke

It was basically just an all round communication technology fail. I now have a new pink laptop, a new HTC Desire phone, we have a new home phone and have resigned ourselves to 3G, although the fight with the parasite, I mean para-statal Telkom. continues!

The communication front has not been great, and the move has been a big adjustment for the kids however I know it sounds corny but I am loved.
I throw wobbly and I am loved,
I have PMS and terrible cramps that double me over and I am loved and looked after,
I go to a parenting forum get together and Yme comes with me.
I am getting used to the fact that he wants to do stuff with me and that he is not going to shout at me and that he actually likes to help organise stuff and shop for the house.
He likes having people over. He might not be an extrovert like me and he needs space alone but he knows my need for people and he accommodates that. He never makes me feel guilty for wanting or needing people.
He tells me he loves me, he even whispers it to me when he thinks I am asleep and can’t hear.
He loves me just the way I am.

I have missed you all, what has everyone been up to? I hope to be here more from now on. I have also started a blog for the kids for their news and home school stuff. www.pinklets.wordpress.com which I hope to be able to update a bit more now that we have some internet albeit not the best fastest or cheapest.

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